I am in a constant state of wondering. It isn’t uncommon for Mr Dreamboat to admonish me, “You don’t need to analyze it, just give in.” Referring, of course, to whatever it is that is going on; my appetite that day, if I need a nap, my progress or lack thereof on a project. I can become downright tiresome. Even to me.
With all that I wonder and all that I ruminate on ad nauseum, there are a few things I simply know. I know in my bones and in my heart. At least I think I know them. I’ll ruminate on that and get back to you…
1. Love really does find a way. And it is a kind and gentle way. It persuades and nudges and stays firm in a foundation of generosity. Love’s the best.
2. We receive what we believe. If you don’t like what you get, then change your mind. No, simple doesn’t mean easy.
3. Pie, under the right circumstances is absolutely a breakfast food.
4. Staying connected to the earth in some way or another, going outside for a walk, wiggling our toes in the grass, is imperative to our balance and happiness.
5. Believing the best of circumstances and people is simply a better way to live.
6. Happiness isn’t a right. It’s an obligation to the fact we were even created. Our obligation back to Creation is to become our best, brightest and happiest selves.
7. People are good. There are a few clunkers, sure. But people are good and kind and want to help.
8. One time a woman told me she doesn’t like hemp milk lattes. She even made a face about it. For that alone she lost three Likable Points with me.
9. In every situation there is something to be gained, though the harder the situation the more challenging it might be to find.
10. Doing something you love every day isn’t a luxury but a necessity. It feeds the soul and we all know letting your soul go hungry is bad for everyone involved.
In my twenties I knew a lot of things. In my thirties, beliefs started dropping like flies at the end of a long, hot summer. In my forties, just a bit gun-shy for having made so many broad assumptions in the beginning, I began collecting things I believe.
It would be foolish to say I will always believe the things that seem so obvious to me today, but I have quite a lot of confidence in these, and so I present them to you:
1. I believe that miracles multiply. Once we start noticing them, they’re everywhere for us to pick up like gems along the path. This is not unlike buying a black Jetta and suddenly they seem to be swarming the highways. Only better than that.
2. Though it’s difficult to embrace it when it’s happening to us, I believe that when people behave badly it has nothing to do with us, and everything to do with them. While it doesn’t make it more fun, it’s just an explanation that if embraced, makes the ordeal less painful.
3. Audrey Hepburn is one of my heroes and to that end; I believe that happy girls are the prettiest. Sure, put on mascara, but live a life you love and the whole world will look at you in wonder.
4. Having been around the block a few years, I now see love less like a feeling and more like a complex root system to be nurtured. While root systems can look similar, there is a multitude of plants out there and they can be quite different. Don’t worry how your “love” looks, concern yourself with what it needs in order to thrive.
5. If I were in charge of the world, and let’s face it, that doesn’t seem like a wise idea, but if I were in charge, I’d make core curriculum testing way less important than teaching young people how to think critically and trust their intuition. I would totally sign up for those classes today if anyone would please offer them.
6. It’s an ugly truth that “nap time” is eradicated from life just when we don’t resent it any longer.
7. Audacity is possibly the most underrated characteristic out there. If we all put on our Audacity Capes, we would achieve great feats of bravery and every one of us would change the world in a big way. Put on your cape. Please, for all our sakes.
8. We’d all feel a lot better if we never clicked on links to negative and outrageous stuff like, “Cute child stars who got ugly when they grew up.” Sure it’s a curiosity, but who amongst us would want someone clicking on a negative page about us? Scroll on by.
9. Choosing to believe in miracles and magic is simply more fun. Everyone should try just a bit of it.
10. I believe in love. I believe in laughter and dancing in the rain, by yourself or with someone you who sets your soul on fire. I believe if we were all taught true, pure, self-love, we could love each other better. I believe pettiness never was happiness and I believe the road to perfection is paved with embracing imperfection and simply being wildly and joyfully human.
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A Sunday afternoon nap is a thing crafted by the gods and delivered on the wings of shimmering, blankie bearing angels. Monday morning wake-ups are made of tougher stuff and delivered without fanfare, never ushered in, but dropped on our doorstep like an unwanted orphan.
Regardless of the delivery, they are both realities. I needn’t advise you on what to do with that long-gone-nap-heaven, but I can help you with the grit that can be your Monday morning. Here, for you, I deliver ten things:
1. Doesn’t matter how quickly I jump out of bed, it takes me a good deal of time to “arise and embrace the day!,” unless, that is, I workout. I know, I know. It’s Monday AND I’m telling you to sweat. We’ll keep it simple if this is not your gig. Do some sun salutations, participate in some blood pumping jumping jacks or go all out and do a Beach Body workout. Quit whining and just do it. No one ever regrets working out. Never.
2. Put a bottle of water on the side of your bed and before you do anything else, drink that room temp, hydration down. Thirsty is never happy. We’re trying to get our happy on here. It’s the simple things that are magic and water is magic. Drink up.
3. Look, this is not a health blog and so I feel no shame in offering you caffeine. As I’ve mentioned, the hemp milk latte is made of the blood of the war gods. Learn it, know it, live it. You won’t be sorry.
4. Join me and Brian Tracy, say it like you mean it, say it loud as you throw yourself out of bed, “I feel terrrrrrrriffffffic!” You can mean it later.
5. Monday’s can be daunting so you want to look your best. Choose your favorite clothes to meet the day. It’s little, but it’ll help you throw those shoulders back and yell, “Come and get me, Monday! I knew you were coming, it’s why I put on my dancin’ shoes.”.
6. Plan a little something to look forward to. We never look forward to having to get out of bed, unless we have something awesome on the agenda. No one ever dawdles on their way to Disneyland. While Disney may not be on the program this Monday morning, there’s always room for delight and planning something for yourself today will take the edge off.
7. Ignore the email, Facebook or texting for just a little while. Make it an hour. At least. Wake up and spend a bit of time with yourself before you invite the entire world in. The better you know how you’re feeling as you go into the day, the better you can choose what to put into your day.
8. Eat protein. Like some eggs. At least eat some sort of breakfast. Don’t be like a moody sixteen year old skulking out the door with a “you don’t understand me” attitude on your shoulder. Fuel up and the world will thank you.
9. It’s never an option I start out with, but if the day is just too much, you’ve been running on empty for too long, perhaps it’s time to opt out of Monday. Close the curtains, make some popcorn and watch a BBC series marathon on Netflix. I suggest The Paradise. And no, this is not a good idea if you did it last week or even the week before. But every once in a while the world will keep spinning without you. Mental health day!
10. We each have our morning rituals that get us started and signal the beginning of the adventures before us. Taking a few minutes of meditation and contemplation, quiet time with you and your own version of God, perhaps it’s the only recommendation one needs. Breathe in, feel the energy surrounding you and know that regardless of the weather, it’s gonna be a bright, bright sun-shiny day.
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Last night I could not sleep for concern over my kids. That said, my children, like yours, bring me a great deal of joy. As I look back over the time I’ve had with them, more than 26 years in all, I can see more than a few things they’ve taught me.
Here I present to you ten of them:
1. As much as Jr. may or may not look like you, Jr. is not you and Jr. does not want to be you. Give the kid some space and don’t take his divergence from you so seriously. In fact, celebrate it.
2. Your children are going to get beaten up by life. No matter the quality of your parenting, bad stuff will happen on your watch. It’s terrifying, but it’s true. That said, we would not be turning out the excellent products we do without them learning that life is a roller coaster. Sure you’ll mourn this fact, but celebrate it too.
3. If you suffer with your children, who will be there to comfort them? Have empathy, but have faith that they can handle the mishaps of life, and then put your oxygen mask on first. You know what I’m saying here. Do. It.
4. As cute as that little button is when they first arrive in your arms, be assured this is not always going to be easy and it’s not going to be pretty. In fact, the birthing process is quite possibly the tranquil part.
5. Parenting will teach you that there’s more than one way to skin a cat. As clear as the path may seem to you, when Jr. strays from it, it’s not the end of the world. There are many paths but one destination. Yeah, I just said that. And I’m not sorry.
6. It is completely unwise to believe you are going to be best friends while you raise them. Someone has to be in charge and it better be you. Letting children rule the roost is not fair to them or the people sitting by you at the restaurant. Take charge and people will like your little peanut a whole lot more. This is good for self-esteem. Yours and theirs.
7. It is said that having a child is like cutting your heart out and letting it walk around in the world without you. I concur. This job takes guts and it’s better to know now that you will have your heart broken a number of times. But it will heal too.
8. If you are willing, you will learn more from the wisdom of your children than you ever thought possible. As they grow up, they will teach you marvelous things. Make sure and pay attention.
9. Good parenting involves quite a lot of faith in very young human beings. When we extend our faith to our children, faith that they are brave enough, smart enough and strong enough to be successful in this world, almost without exception they will prove us right. But first you must extend and communicate faith.
10. And if you put in all the particular ingredients required in the recipe of your family, when you’re done raising them, or even mostly done, you can be best friends then. And THAT is the big payday. And grandchildren. They’re a big payday too.
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No one gets through this life without some bumps and bruises. Every single one of us has been disappointed, betrayed and forlorn at one time or another. It’s payment for this ride that is the ultimate E-ticket attraction. No one rides for free.
There are mishaps that cannot be avoided and there are things we can do to make life a little bit easier. Mr Dreamboat has taught me all about being prepared and most importantly, to pack the right gear.
I present to you a few things that make the road a little easier and the bumps a bit more cushioned.
1. Everyone is a weary traveler. Be kind to those you meet. It should never be the point of compassion, but somehow and someway, everything is returned to us. Your relationships are your finest assets. Treat them as such.
2. I have a client who reminds me it’s important to “unpack your parachute” every once in a while. Take inventory of the things in your life, make sure everything is in good working order, and if not, make appropriate repairs. You don’t want to find out you have a hole after you’ve jumped out of the plain. Relationships, health, education, check it all. These are the things that catch you when you fall.
3. It is a little known fact that whatever you say about another person is associated subconsciously with you. Make it a point to speak well of others and in the immortal words of Bambi’s Thumper, “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.
4. Travel light. We don’t need a lot of stuff. There are only a few hours in every day and the more time we spend tending to things the less time we have to experience all life has to offer us. I am preaching this sermon to myself. I would like to remind me that less is more.
5. The minute you believe you have all the answers and know what is best in the world is the minute you stop learning, stop growing and become a boor. Let’s not do that, okay?
6. Gratitude is the best gear you can carry with you. When you have gratitude the worst situations can be learning experiences. When you have gratitude you come to understand you have everything you need or at least it’s on its way.
7. Right after gratitude, let us pack in our emergency kit, curiosity. When we stay curious instead of judgmental we allow ourselves to stay out of victimhood or alarm and we become available for solutions and lessons. If I could take just two things with me wherever I go it would be gratitude and curiosity.
8. Snacks. Let’s keep that blood sugar balanced, shall we? Pack healthy snacks with you wherever you go and that brilliant sunset or romantic moment will be 100 times better. Hangry never was happiness. I speak from experience.
9. My parachute is made up of gratitude, curiosity and a healthy dose of self love. I take it with me to remind me how to love others. I take it with me because self-loathing is sucky and stupid.
10. I have lived in beautiful homes and I have lived in humble apartments. I have stayed in five star hotels and in motels where I wondered if they changed the sheets or not. None of those things matter. They were simply diversions. What matters is how we love, whom we love and how much we are willing to love some more. If I were packing my parachute for the long fall through the sky, I would pack gratitude, curiosity, self love and love for others. And that, my friends should do it. It would all fit into a carry-on to boot.
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This weekend Mr Dreamboat and I will celebrate 28 years of marital bliss at the Oregon coast. That is to say, we will celebrate at the coast, the entire marriage wasn’t spent here…
We will almost certainly reminisce, we will go out to dinner (though both of us forgot to make reservations and the rest of the world didn’t) and we will talk about our plans for the future.
It is a good life we’ve built, not without it’s flaws, bumps and the occasional bruise (figurative, of course) and I am entirely in love with it.
I’m not a therapist or any sort of love specialist, but in 28+ years together I’ve learned a few things. I presuppose you are interested in ten of them. Happy Valentine’s Day.
1. Love is not a 50/50 deal. It’s more like 80/20 sometimes, and 20/80 at others. One has to give at least as much as one expects to receive and the brilliance comes when you’re both giving 100%. That usually only happens during vacations… without the kids… because real life is different than that.
2. Fifty Shades of Grey? Ha. More like 50 shades of grey laundry and the occasional hot night together. Real love does not resemble what Hollywood is hawking… Disclaimer, I’ve neither read the books nor seen the movie and I’m too busy to plan on doing so anytime in the near future.
3. Sometimes love means cleaning up vomit. This is not sexy, it certainly doesn’t smell good, but it’s the truth and I am a peddler of the truth. At least the truth as I see it.
4. Other times love looks like belly laughing and Taco Bell. Hey. At least it’s sexier than vomit.
5. Love is a choice. This is probably not the most popular information, but we can choose how we love and who we love based on how much we’re willing to work on ourselves. Don’t read anything too weird into this. If you’re not already in love, or at least were at some time in love, don’t force it.
6. The very best part of love is when you both help one another show up as your best selves. Support dreams, seek strengths and overlook flaws. This coincidentally, is how we should love ourselves.
7. When it’s real love, sacrifice feels like an honor, not a burden.
8. We are all so unique, and as such, our blissful relationships look different. Never look over the neighbor’s fence to see what your relationship “should” look like. Stop shoulding all over your relationship. Enjoy what you’re creating and if it’s not what you want, create something different.
9. Sometimes love looks exactly like it does in the movies. These moments are to be relished.
10. Valentine’s Day is hyped as a romantic holiday but it would behoove commerce to make it into a holiday that’s simply about love. All kinds. Love is everywhere. Love is good. If you don’t have some, go out and give some. That, as it turns out, is how it’s made.
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Regret is for fools and whiners. I know. It’s harsh. But the fact is that as we look over our pasts we have no more influence over what has happened than we have pure knowledge of what will happen. To regret is to look past the lessons and waste time on wishing.
Wishing never was happiness. You can quote me.
That said, there are some choices I made that could have used more information. There are things I wish I knew then that I know now. And these are ten of them.
1. It would have been nice if grownups had admitted they’re just faking it with more experience than the young. Be assured, my children are regularly informed that everyone is just faking it.
2. Certainly it would have been helpful to know that faking it is perhaps the most powerful tool out there. Instead of believing everyone else had it going on, I would have just pretended along with them, instead of being wowed by their “knowledge.” Fake it till you make it, right?
3. Those gut feelings that plagued me would not have been considered a plague. I would respect them, inquire of them and look for more. That’s what I do today anyway.
4. Every time I’ve given in to the urge to be snotty or small or mean, I would squish that feeling like the venomous bug that it is. Down with ugliness!
5. Every. Single. Damn. Time I felt shame, I would swat it away like a nasty gnat. Shame is nothing but a bitter mistress. She will never give you what you want.
6. Those dates with men that didn’t interest me and I pretended that they did because it seemed like they should, I would stop us from wasting our time together. When you find someone is not your “people” respect that and them enough to move on. How much time we could save one another.
7. I think it would have been better to start flying my Freak Flag younger, braver. And I would call to arms all those whose Freak Flags yearn to fly. Consider yourself called now. Heeeeeyyy—ohhhhhhh…
8. Perhaps one of the most interesting discoveries I’ve made is that the Freak Flag Flyer is not weird, but ironically normal. We’ve all got freak flags, we’re just not flying them.
9. In retrospect, I would speak my mind sooner than later. Always with kindness, but truth should not be held back. Because, you know, it will set you free. And we all want to be free.
10. Audacity. It is the tool of the strong and the brave. Or at least it is the tool of those faking being strong and brave. Audacity is a tool I’ve still not mastered, but it will be mine. Oh yes. It will be mine.
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The “Science Of Happiness” is an interesting animal. There are definitely specifics to it, but in the end, we are each unique and as varied as the falling snow. A perfect afternoon for me (in my studio alone, dance party, paint everywhere) may be hours of anxiety and pain for you. Tuh-may-toe/ Toe-mah-toe.
I would never prescribe you with the particulars of how to spend your day to achieve happiness, but there are some very reliable studies that can give us a few hints toward happiness. I don’t know about you, but I could use a few hints about life.
Here are ten of them:
1. Real happiness does not reside in the acquisition of stuff. Happy people revel in what they have and opt out of comparing it to others. Easier said than done, right? But there are a few tricks that can help us get there. When we find ourselves in that comparative place, taking a moment and redirecting our thoughts to those things that are awesome (“Hey, I’m so happy my computer works.”) reminds us of reasons to rejoice. Let us rejoice!
2. While the perfect bank account is a comfort, money isn’t happiness. Nor is the perfect relationship if the money part is freaking you out. Achieving a sense of balance (not to be confused with perfection) is the path to happiness.
3. Likewise, winning isn’t everything. Ultracompetitive people are not happy people because losing happens. And when we expect to win every time, we can’t be dazzled, we’re only mollified for a moment. Losing sometimes, occasional failures, these things are good for us. Think of it as medicinal. Makes it go down smoother.
4. Taking the time to comfort others is good for the soul. It takes us out of our own, sometimes petty, concerns and strengthens relationships. Somehow comforting others, comforts us. It’s magic. Don’t ask me how it works.
5. When Mr Dreamboat was in jail I honestly believed that all the good times were past. I was not yet forty. Deeply depressed much? Yes. Yes I was. But it’s not uncommon for us to think that when our youth is past, so are the best of times. Studies show the opposite. The halcyon days of youth are a story someone made up. Maybe so we would be shocked to get to our later years and find the party was always waiting there for us. Party on, Garth.
6. Back to that wondrous and seemingly elusive thing called balance, we must remember to align our goals. We may say we want to make millions of dollars and then declare we seek tons of free time to relax on the beach. Um… how’s that gonna work? Take a good look at what lights you up in all areas of your life and then balance those out so it’s a harmonious story you’re creating.
7. Sometimes, and I try to keep it to a bare minimum, I think cranky thoughts and ruminate on sad, ugly stories. The stories may be true, and to a certain degree need to be acknowledged, but after that, the rumination doesn’t do a speck of good. When I catch myself in the ugly stories, that may, or may not even be true, I pat my self on my metaphorical head and turn the other way. This is a far more powerful tool than one would think. You’re welcome.
8. Laugh. Laugh at yourself. Laugh when no one else thinks it’s funny. Just laugh. Cat videos might help. A good, belly laugh is an amazing reparative practice. Whatever it is that makes you laugh, do it and do it often. Here, let me help you:
9. I ran a girls camp for years. The very first year it rained the entire week. It was cold, we had no indoor buildings available and the one thing I remember saying over and over again was, “We are willows, we bend but do not break.” One of the keys to happiness is being flexible. When things have to be on our terms we tend to get frustrated and anxious. Letting things flow as they will brings us peace and a happiness not to be found when things only go our way.
10. I jokingly say that at our house we’re never disappointed because we lower the bar. That way, every morning all I have to do is get up and step right over the top of it. But there’s an element of truth to it. A truth that permeates all of the previous tips. Stuff’s gonnna happen, disappointments are inevitable, but when we wake up and we find we can get out of bed, we have love in our lives, we have people who care about us, boom! Life is a success and there’s everything to be happy about. Do yourself a favor and lower the bar.
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I’m definitely not a scientist. I’m pretty sure every science teacher I ever had is nodding their head vigorously in agreement. I’m not a scientist.
But I read a ton of scientific articles. I like to read studies and glean from them applicable information. And then, I can’t be certain I do this, but I suspect I do, I bastardize them, de-sciencify them and turn them into whatever it is I want them to be.
Today I take that special skill and, dare I say talent? Yes, I do. I take that skill and talent and I share it with you. You’re welcome.
Ten things that will make you happy and scientific fact will back me up:
1. Green smoothies make you happy. Here’s the science behind it: You eat green things that are sweet and good for you and it’s like yoga fo-yo-belly. And your belly tells your brain, “Good on ya! Let’s feel happy.” And then you do.
2. A bit of vitamin D is an amazing key to happiness. I read a book, well, I browsed through it at least, and it says all sorts of bad stuff happens to you when you don’t get enough of The D and like, a million percent of Americans don’t. The book is called The Vitamin D Cure. You can check my stats for yourself.
3. Meditation. What? You didn’t hear me the first time? Meditation. I know. I know I say it all the time, but have you done it yet? Do it and maybe I’ll stop nagging you then. Meditation makes you happy. Studies prove it. The End.
4. Speaking of studies, spending at least 5 minutes outside is proven to lift one’s mood. Notice it’s free? See how you might even get a bit of Vitamin D while you’re at it? Two birds, one stone.
5. Sometimes caffeine makes me smile and I’m not sorry. I like it and it likes me.
6. Science has proven time and time again that making inappropriate jokes at inappropriate times makes you happy. Okay, I made that one up. I’m just saying don’t take life so seriously. It’s all going to be alright. Relax. That part’s good, solid information.
7. Treat yo’self. Do something nice for you. It doesn’t have to be expensive or time consuming, but when you make time to do something special just for you, it’s like a birthday present from the friend who knows you best. Be your own best friend.
8. Speaking of being your own best friend, talk pretty to you. Say things you appreciate about you. Maybe you need to start slow, just observe when you’re not doing it and take note. Sometimes that’s what it takes to get on the path of feeling awesome.
9. Give it away. “What?” You might ask, “Give what away?” Well, there’s a pretty long list but we’ll start with just a few: Your kindest thoughts, your positive expectations, your help, money, creativity and well-being. Give it away with no thought of what you might receive in return. At the very least you’re making space for new good things. You’re going to need space, so give it away.
10. Get enough sleep. I’m totally not making this one up. The Dalai Lama said, “Sleep is the best meditation.” He’s a smart guy. Probably a better scientist than I am too. If you don’t have time to meditate at the very least make time for sufficient sleep.
Maybe they’re not all exactly scientific, but they’re all solid information. Take a few of ‘em out for a spin. Let me know what you think.
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Jokingly (read: not even joking a little bit) on Saturday I told my coaching group that one of the ways I decided to change my life so many years ago was to be an every day flosser. I was hoping they’d giggle. Maybe they did on the inside.
My point was simply that small shifts in our lives can create amazing energy on the inside and on the outside. I floss every day because it makes me feel good, both dentally and emotionally.
Here are a few things I do to make myself feel good. They include no unhealthy indulgences and a few things (like flossing ~ totally underrated as a health practice) that can actually improve the quality and longevity of your life.
1. I like to get pedicures. I like my toes to feel pretty and have someone massage my feet. Throw in a hot wax treatment and I’m in heaven. So you can imagine when I learned that getting pedicures is actually good for your health, it went even higher on my list of self-care practices. I’m still fighting with the insurance company over having them cover 100% of the charges. Sigh…
2. Meditation isn’t just for your hippie friends anymore. It too is scientifically proven to improve basically every aspect of your life from sex to heart health. It’s also free. But I’m sure insurance still wouldn’t cover it… You should download this meditation app.
3. It would please me to tell you that I do it every day, but I don’t. That said, and way more often in the summer, I sweep my front doorstep. It’s a feng shui practice informing the Universe that you’re open for business. It’s a moving meditation. And your doorstep is cleaner. So at the very least there’s that.
4. When I don’t feel happy, I try and make sure to be particularly friendly, helpful and generous. Even one of those things will make you feel better, the triple threat is a guaranteed win.
5. The green smoothie is a brilliant way to start any day. No matter what happens throughout the day, if you’ve thrown in some power greens and a few other super-ingredients, you’re golden and your body says, “Gracias, amiga.”
6. Whenever “the fatigue” hits, if at all possible, I try to honor that demanding mistress and feed her a nap. It’s just my way of sayin’, “If I give you what you want, I expect you to go away.”
7. With all my heart I wish to control “Hangry”. My people, we are susceptible to low blood sugar. It is not a pretty sight and so quite often you can find almonds or a banana in my purse. More than once this has saved me from going and damaging my health at McD’s. More than once this has saved Mr Dreamboat from irrational wrath.
8. The difference between two skilled people and their success usually has more to do with audacity than with talent. I try to keep audacity with me even more often than a healthy snack.
9. I’m all about positive thinking, I know the importance of looking on the bright side, and I also know how important it is to simply feel what I am feeling. No judgment, no urgency to get away. If we let it be, often it gets bored and goes away when it’s ready.
10. Even when I don’t feel pretty, I pretend I do.
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