I watched a really great TEDx video yesterday that has me thinking about living my life in pure honesty. If you’d like to think about honesty you can watch it here. I recommend you do that because honesty is good.
Now I know many of you will say, “Yes, Michelle, it’s important to be honest, but only to a point. You don’t really want to know when you look fat in that dress, do you?” The answer is, to most of you, “No, I do not. I’m wearing the dress, we’re out on the town, there’s nothing I can do about it at this point. Your job is to build up my self esteem in the hopes that I will have better posture and maybe take a few pounds off the look that way.” (Mr Dreamboat, if asked, is obligated to tell me the truth, though he may suffer for it. That’s just part of the deal.)
But what we’re talking about here is being authentically who we are, not trying to hide it from ourselves, not pretending we’re something we’re not to those around us. This is intriguing to me as I don’t really think I have any big, bad secrets. But maybe I do and I’ve been lying to myself for so long I don’t know it.
I’m searching my soul, I’m going deep and in that spirit, I give you 10 True Confessions:
2. I’ve never been entirely altruistic, I do nice things so I can feel good too.
4. I’m judgmental. I don’t mean to be, but when I’m disappointed with someone… Yeah, this is the bad one. I’m judgmental. That’s the one that makes me feel bad inside. That’s where the work needs to be done. But wait, there’s more…
5. Sometimes I don’t take responsibility. I say I’m all empowered but I don’t want to look at the bank account and deal with it or problems or conflict. It appears there’s much work to be done.
That’s it. I couldn’t come up with ten things. I think this is good news.
They say a family is only as sick as its worst secret, I suppose that applies to all of us as well. I want to be well. I want to live fully and feel completely and love my life. We can only do this when we’re exercising the demons. I believe that.
Let us air our secrets. Let us be our authentic selves and by so doing, make the world a lovelier place to live.